Manic Monday: “Pretending all the lies were love…”

I’ve been introspective of late.  I wager that this is one of the unwanted perks of my recent marriage — the contemplation of one’s family, chosen and blood-tied.  It’s inescapable, from engagement announcement to that walk down the aisle:  who is my family?  What is my role within it?

Who isn’t here?  Who do I wish was standing by?

Every major life event summons this dialogue forth, unwanted by those with realities far from the cookie cutter postcard society sells.  I know the feeling of absence, of palpable pain that shoots from heart to head.  I know the echoes of voices I can never hear again in this lifetime, not organically.  In my mind, I can see myself holding that bouquet of white daisies and purple irises, my fingers drifting to graze the cool metal of a wristwatch.  It seems another adornment of an Alice In Wonderland wedding, a trinket.  A part of me wants the majority of our guests to dismiss it as such.

I know whose wrist wore it in life.  I know that, in the only way possible now, he is walking me down the aisle.

In those moments, I watch the web unfurl, lines criss-crossing with the precision of a figure skater dancing along ice.  I know of the living who are not here.  I know of the ones whom I took great pains to ensure would not darken the day.  I sought the absence, and yet, it hurts now, a wound drenched in lemon splashes.

“Even if amends were made, the absence can’t be undone.”

So I am told, and I wish I didn’t hear, because until spoken, that truth had been blissfully unapparent.  And even if I know amends will never be made by one who spent years destroying another, even if I know that I made the happiest choice in a list of lousy ones, there is a small girl deep within who wanted to believe the lies, who wanted to believe that a sociopath could love.  A little girl who doesn’t want to live in a world with such callous disregard for a life created.  A young adult who threw out her hand every time for a rope that would split and fall away.

Sometimes, it’s hard to emerge and make it through the “9 to 5” when your heart is crawling inside a cave.

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